Our livelihood has been tied to our identity for a long time. Surnames such as Baker, Smith, Cooper, Cook… literally come from the label given to some ancestor who was in fact, a baker, a smith, a cooper, a cook. The question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” might as well […]Continue reading "Identity Crisis for The Renesaince Man"
They keep pulling me back in. Like crabs in a pot, all struggling to get on top, pulling each other down, making escape impossible. Well…improbable. We’re told that you can’t run away from problems. We’re told to work with what you’ve got. We’re told that avoidance is a dysfunction; a syndrome. I’m not going to […]Continue reading "Withdrawl"
We know. Life is hard. Change is hard. Relationships are hard. Fitness is hard. Creating wealth is hard. I think we’re making it harder than it needs to be. What if, just as a thought experiment, we don’t just assume the truth from a hustle-meme? What if we challenge the narrative that happiness and success […]Continue reading "It can all be easy."
I’m getting married in less than a month. I’m publishing a book soon after. We’ll be debt-free next year. We have at least 5 trips planned over the next year. Two are big ones! I have medical issues that need to be addressed, difficult relationship issues with family, and some legal loose ends that […]Continue reading "Thinking Past the Future: Patience Part 1 of 3"
My fear doesn’t give you enough credit. I write about authenticity, but I’ve been censoring myself for fear of losing you. I haven’t lied, per se, but I haven’t been forthright either. Looking back, I think this may have started when I took the job… For a decade and a half, I owned a small […]Continue reading "I owe you an apology."
…One bite at a time. But that’s where the advice ends. You know damned well you’re going to get full long before you can eat the whole thing. Then what? How do you keep the hyenas away? How do you preserve it from the hot sun? How do you move that much animal? I know […]Continue reading "How Do You Eat An Elephant?"
This is right. That is wrong. This is up. That is down. Here is black. There is white. And that is that. Or so we’re told. Reality is much more nuanced. Up is only up from a certain point of view. We ought to know that by now, yet It seems like daily I encounter […]Continue reading "Dangerous Thinking: Waking Up From False Dichotomies"
I’ve been a goal-setter most of my life. When I was a kid, I developed the habit of envisioning a future version of myself that was highly intelligent, ultra-disciplined, rich, heavily muscled, tan, and happy. I learned very early on that in order to achieve the life you want, you have to learn to set […]Continue reading "I’ve stopped setting goals, and I’ve never been happier."
*Bell Rings* Awareness is half the battle. I’m not a betting man, but I would be willing to wager real money (bitcoin) that you spend more time on social media than you think you do. These programs are designed to be addictive. You’ve probably heard all this before and think you’re already aware, but that’s […]Continue reading "Mind Control: Who’s in charge? You, or the marketers?"
3:08 PM I grew up with just enough abuse to learn how to avoid difficult conversations. When I was a kid, difficult conversations were also the threat of violence. My mother drank, and a couple of my sisters had tempers to keep up their defences. My dad was quiet. I learned to be quiet too. […]Continue reading "Difficult Conversations"